You are the one who remembers the plans, smooths the arguments, and translates his moods to everyone including yourself. When you are the planner, fixer, translator, and peacekeeper, love can start to feel like unpaid emotional work.
Answer from the work you do to keep the relationship steady and how much support comes back to you. Your honesty helps this reflection show what is behind the exhaustion.
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This reflection draws on established relationship-psychology concepts around consistency, reciprocity, attachment, and emotional safety. It is meant for personal insight, not as a clinical diagnosis.