Fearful Avoidant,
or Just Self-Protection?

You want him closer and you pull back the second he gets there, and you have started wondering if that contradiction means something is actually wrong with you. It might just mean two different instincts are both trying to keep you safe, in opposite directions.

Take a breath and answer from what happens after closeness feels real. Your honesty helps this reflection understand the push and pull you may be carrying inside the relationship.