Are You Respecting Yourself, or Avoiding Disappointment?
You stopped expecting flowers, plans, follow-through, a while ago, and you have started calling that peace instead of naming what it actually is. Expecting less can feel mature. It can also be a quiet way to stop asking for what you need.
Think about the hopes you have quietly set aside and why you stopped reaching for them. Your answers help this reflection see where you may be asking too little for yourself.
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This reflection draws on established relationship-psychology concepts around attachment, reciprocity, emotional safety, and self-protection. It is meant for personal insight, not as a clinical diagnosis.